Requirements for a partner
31 January 2008, 9:10 pm. View comments. Filed under Personal.
Other than all those compatibility issues, natural attraction etc. which you can't really just say "I want someone smart/humourous/romantic", I've always had three requirements (since 2007) which I stick in the back of my head when looking for a man:
- Be able to understand what I say (most of the time, at least). My English vocabulary sucks enough. I don't need someone worse.
- Visibly taller than me. But I admit that in my shallow mind I also have this "Ideal Man's Height" range.
- Be able to carry me with ease. For sexy/romantic reasons and health/safety considerations. (If I faint I need someone who would be able to carry me somewhere.)
However, tonight I've made the grave decision to add in a fourth requirement:
- Have the courage and determination to exterminate all bugs and other yucky things standing in my way that cause me to scream my head off.
Because a few minutes ago, a big ugly spider appeared within my sight and I immediately resorted to screaming mad. My dad ran up, I pointed to the spider, he gave me a big 
look and killed it. Now if I'm with a guy who's just as afraid of these yucky things as I am, we'd both be screaming our heads off. And if worse comes to worst, he'd be screaming louder than me. After all, in most cases, a man acts as a protective figure for the woman.
Now, now, is there anyone more demanding than me? 
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I need to be able to look up to him. Physically that's not hard as I'm 1.60
But he has to be smarter than I am... and more mature. The latter's quite easy, as I'm extremely immature. ;) -
I want a guy who is smarter and more mature than me and don't stress out a lot, so I can lean on him. And I also want him taller. Guys here are quite short
' I'm one of the tallest people in class :O
I'll stop here, since I want a lot from him -
I feel bad for all the short guys out there, but being taller than me is one of my "requirements", too
I'm not too worried about the carrying and killing bugs, though - I can take care of myself! 
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I kill the bugs and then feel bad aftrwards because I took their life away... :-(
I wouldnt care if he was taller than me, just not shorter. But Ive never met a guy shorter than me...
Josh can carry me. He just has an issue with going through doorways and not hitting my feet against anything.
I dont want a guy smarter than me because I dont want to be the stupid one. Which works because me and Josh are at about the same level. hehe -
I'm tall.
Are you thinking of coming to Portugal any time soon? -
I think it is OK to have certain requirements for a partner, however, it's also important not to be obsessive about it. My best friend (girl) made our lists when we were in 7th grade - with a mere 12 years of age. She had a gazillion requirements, that she eventually cut down to 15. She sticks to those requirements so tightly, that she has never had a boyfriend / partner / male interaction in all her life. If seemingly perfect guy comes to her, but he doesn't like Wrestling, he's out. Kind of like that.
I don't have a lot of requirements myself, and the ones that I do have are flexible in case a nice guy comes around. I would certainly like a guy taller than me, and while most of my guys have been taller, the one that I liked the most was my same height. He was also very slim and couldn't carry me with ease - something that my grandmother always said to me "You're going to carry him to bed in your honeymoon!". Another requirement is that he isn't a "chav / thug / whatever" - yet again I fell for one, for a short time.
Last requirement and the most important, for him to be an intelligent and open minded person. Killing the bugs is of course a very appreciated plus, lol. If my dad weren't so close minded and overall stupid, he would be my perfect man XD
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Haha xD
Personally, I'm so unlucky in love that I can't be fussy.
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Hurr, I don't have a hard time finding taller guys because I'm just seriously really short. (I only need like 1/4 inch to be 5 feet tall. Gah.) I know someone who had really strict requirements for guys, most of the times though, she ends up dating dudes who aren't even half of what she wanted (based on her list).
I think my most important requirement is that the guy can cook? It's going to take me a few years to learn how to cook something that is actually edible, lol, so yeah As for bugs, I like squishing them myself. Unless it was a tarantula, then I'd go running out my door/window. -shudders- -
Just 4 Rilla. Geesh, your not picky at all. My requirements list up to about ten so no I don't think you are picky at all. Hmm...I guess that is why I am single. But I guess it is a good thing I love being single.
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Hahaha, awww. Yeah, needing my own personal insect remover is vitally important to me too. As of right now my brother, mother, father or just about anyone else less sissy than I am usually does it for me, but one of these days I'm going to need a guaranteed exterminator that will stay by my side forever.
My list of requirements are rather standard, but I don't back down on any of the points - he needs to be respectful, hardworking, humble, intelligent, etc. These things are my bottom line - If he's not respectful, he's gone.
My list of "would likes" (i.e., not required but definitely desired), on the other hand, can be summed up in three words: I would love it if he was better than me at everything, or most things. Taller, better looking, smarter, more talented, more loving, better dancer, more geeky, more entrepreneurial, etc. etc. That's my definition of the perfect guy. -
^ I'm with you on the "would likes".
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There's nothing wrong with being fussy. As long as you're not too fussy. I don't think the things you listed are out of line. We all need standards. If I had raised my standards, I wouldn't have been married married by 26 and divorced by 28.
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I cannot stand bugs at all! I have to get other people to kill them for me
. I definently would love a guy who could do all the necessary bug squashing for me 
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Dude, Rilla, you are FAAAAR from demanding. You should see MY list of requirements. They include all four of yours and about 20 more. XD
Above all, though—-my number one requirement is that he must be protective of me. =P -
I'm sure you can build up the courage to stomp on the critters if the need ever arises.
If worse comes to worst, next time you're looking for a partner, hand them the list with a checkbox beside each contention! Add the "would be"'s for bonus points! -
See, the problem with number 4 is that these guys are tricky. For the first year they are like, "oh my gosh, a HUGE spider is attacking you! I'll save you!" Fast forward five years and they are saying things like, "It's just a tiny bug! Take your shoe and squash it," because they just feel they don't have to pretend anymore.
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Taller than me is a must — I'm short around the 5"1' range, that for a guy to be shorter than me, they'd be *really* short. While I'm squirmy about insects, I'm more afraid of dogs, so he'd definitely have to be able to protect me from them.
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You know, o_O I had a whole list of requirements for the 'perfect' guy. And my current boyfriend basically is the opposite of at least half that list. But I'm okay with it, because I'd rather have him. *shot*
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I love the third requirement on your list. That's too cute.
Hmm... I think that I'm pretty demanding when it comes to guys. But I dislike the idea of looking for someone who is smarter than me — I want an intelligent guy, but he doesn't have to be smarter than me. It's okay if he is, but it's also okay if he isn't.
That point irks me because I equate the necessity of him being smarter with the idea that women should submit to men. There's no need for the male to be smarter, unless the female is to follow him.
It also means that guys are probably looking for dumb girls... That way of thinking hurts an intelligent girl's chances of finding a decent guy, because most males will be too intimidated by her mental prowess. -
I don't think you're too picky! I don't have a lot of requirements, they just have to take care of themselves, have a great sense of humor, and a geniunely good heart.
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Well, what an interesting entry!
I don't think you're too picky. I find it normal that people who have certain standards and don't stick strictly to them fall for guys who are just as nice.
What I mean, is do not lower your standards, but be flexible. Maybe a super duper boy is waiting for you, and who knows, he might be the love of your life, bug squahser or not.
PS with that said, I don't think I could cope with a guy not being tougher or braver than me. -
I've been changing my requirements on the way, because at times something I've never thought of pops up...
I've been mostly with guys of the same height as me, and never had a problem with it... but I admit I sometimes feel uncomfortable wearing heels in their presence.
1. He has to be about as intelligent and educated as me. Unintelligent guys put me off. I haven't met a guy who was way smarter than me yet, but I guess I wouldn't like that either.
2. He shouldn't be jealous of my male friends.
3. He should have some kind of artistic hobby (draw, write, play an instrument...), like reading and preferably not be a cars/sports freak.
There's more, but these are the most important ones.
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Re. the height thing, I don't think that's shallow... I think it's a natural thing. Being fairly tall I don't think I could date someone who was short, but I wouldn't want to date... like... a sasquatch either.